Confused

Frankco said he won't let Steph have the kids because they had such a terrible time last summer.  And he's not sure she'll send them back.  Stephanie is such a mess.  Frankco said he can get full custody but hasn't taken the steps to do it.  So I got worried and asked him about it and he said "Oh, I won't keep the kids from her."  So what changed?  I take a risk every time I talk to him because he just runs to her and tells her I'm on his side.  I thought I was on the kids side.  I don't want any drama in front of them. But maybe I should just be on my side.

Stella.  She came to Idaho for Thanksgiving.  I had decided not to cross her at all especially with food issues.  It's hard. I took her to McDonald's and she ordered medium fries, ice cream and nuggets.  She wanted to order another medium fries and she ordered LARGE fries.  When I asked why she did that she said it was my fault because I wanted her to share.  I had asked her for one french fry.  She does no wrong, takes no blame.  She won't talk about when she was suspended.......it was the principal's fault.  Sometimes I feel like I'm raising Stephanie all over again.  Only Stephanie wasn't this frustrating until she was older.

So Stella:

Cons

Eating disorder, over weight
Doesn't take responsibility
Fidgety
Addicted to screen
Regresses to baby talk etc.
Controlling
Uses physical ailments to get out of things or get attention.

Pros

Intelligent
Affectionate